Thursday, May 27, 2010

Another Daddy Blog

Blogged again on Next Family


Because she gets short shrift around here…

Has to eat dinner off the floor

And after everyone else…

This post is dedicated to Puss Puss.

Our cat.

She is a Dragon.

She is a Philosopher.

She’s an Elegant Buffoon.

She’s our eldest daughter, really.

She is horribly neglected, at least she thinks so…

Recently, oh, two weeks ago or so, Puss had an appointment at The Vet.

It was her well check – she was very overdue for a well check… like two years overdue

Tho her carrier lives in our shed, I always like to bring it in the night before an appointment to give her time to get used to it – let it warm up and soak up the smells of the house and all that. I was getting ready for bed and realized that I had forgotten to bring it in – so ran out to the shed in the dark – not my favorite thing to do – grabbed the carrier and set it in the kitchen where it sat till I unceremoniously shoved Puss into it in a race to get to her appointment on time (because I am always late for everything lately, but that’s another blog post – maybe next week…).

We made it in time and had a nice chat with another Maine coon owner in the waiting area.

Eventually we were called in to the exam room and I let Puss out to explore and relax; she had been out for a few minutes – long enough to do a first round of sniffing and then settle at my elbow – when I looked down and noticed what seemed to be little… mouse turds on the floor…

I thought, “could it be? here? in the vet?” then I looked at where they lay and realized that they must have fallen out of Puss’s carrier – I have never been so mortified. Out of a morbid curiosity and concern for Puss’s well-being I started to investigate further – there was a blanket in the carrier – it lives in the carrier – it’s the carrier blanket, I made the dreadful mistake of pulling the blanket out to see what might be in there and literally, yes I mean literally, hundreds of mouse poops fell to the floor.

I went into shock, panic mode – what to do? I began to kick them – there was nothing to push them under, break them up into pieces? Not enough time. Out of desperation I bent down and started scooping them up with my hands – it was awful. But here I am at the vet – not only are they going to know I brought mouse poop into the vet’s office they are going to know that my poor cat had to ride in a carrier that was awash in mouse feces…. I am certain my ability to cat-parent would have to be called into question at that point…

Ugh.

Poor Puss.

It seems that the pack rats that had been time-sharing in our shed a year or so ago had used Poor Puss’s carrier as a lounge… the bastards.

Well, needless to say, out of guilt, remorse, and a renewed sense of ardor Puss Puss has been getting a bit more love and attention in our house lately.

Oddly enough, we also recently had a similar experience with Lil’ Chaos.

The world came crashing in and said, “Enough!’

She didn’t have to ride in a cage with mouse poo – but she was acting out at her pre-school in such a way and on such a regular basis that out of desperation she was sent home. It became clear we needed to examine our choices as a family and make an adjustment.

It was time to press the reset button.

And it worked.

Isn’t it amazing and peculiar that sometimes it takes a really stupid mistake, a grievous error or a big consequence to set you to rights?

Sunday, May 23, 2010

Peace


They are beautiful when they sleep. The serenity and peace fills the room. Whenever I am overwhelmed by life or parenting or the world it is always comforting to go in one of the girl's bedrooms and sneak a peak.

Wednesday, May 12, 2010

photos - mothers day bike ride





Update...



Just wanted to share this tidbit...

Today at about 11:30 i dropped a forgotten lunch off at Maya's school.

As i walked up I saw that heard the kiddos playing and saw group was out in the courtyard...
after looking over the courtyard i saw Maya standing behind a tree...

To avoid any distraction or incident i engaged stealth mode.

I rang the bell and Quena, Maya's teacher, came to the door.

We made the lunch hand off and Quena asked if i had spotted Maya, i said i had seen her hiding behind a tree, and she informed me that Maya was "putting on a play" and had been behind the tree for nearly 20 minutes...
This epic performance consisted entirely of Maya hiding behind the tree.

Maya dubbed it "When the clouds go Pffft (raspberry sound)."

some pics from a couple weeks ago





Thursday, May 6, 2010

Blogged again!

When I was a junior in college I took a philosophy class that was called The Philosophy of Ecology…

We read, among other things, John Dewey’s Experience and Nature. This really has very little to do with my story other than context, consider it exposition…

The instructor was Dr. Chester Z. Keller. I was addicted to his classes. Took a class on Mysticism, Philosophy of Religion… enough of them that I eventually ended up with a Philosophy Minor.

The first day of class he talked for twenty minutes about the syllabus, the texts, the usual stuff… and then he lectured for the rest of class, a good hour and half or so, about the significance of shit.

He emphasized not just its place in the cycle, but its vitality, its life-giving qualities…

The two words I remember being on the blackboard were Fecund and Feces…

I think in my notes I wrote the word “ordure” because I had to look it up…

Once again Dr. Keller had struck a chord.

I was so inspired I used a section of my mid-term paper to discuss and explore Keller’s introductory lecture topic.

I am having a hard time celebrating poop lately.

I desperately need to find this paper, to get me thru the rest of this potty training saga.

The litter box doesn’t help.

Friday, April 30, 2010

Sunday, April 25, 2010

Blogged again

The Next Family

In the nearly five years that we have been parents Jen and I have experienced a number of recalls for products that we use or have used regularly, daily, frequently, with or without our children. Car seats, high chairs, slings, strollers, toy after toy after toy… Some recalls more serious than others, ranging in severity from pinched fingers to suffocation….

Eegawds!

What do we do with this information?

Admittedly, I am a head-in-the-sand kind of person – and really not all that tapped into news or pop culture events, let alone current recall warnings, or serious concerns, or even the latest childcare trend… Yes, I have guilt about this. Luckily, I partnered well; Jen is all up in the parenting discussion groups and knows which water bottle to avoid or what sun block is safest…

I sort of figure I balance those duties out by lots of bike rides, and Lego truck building lessons, and trips to the park… Jesus, if the park gets recalled I’m screwed.

But, when Jen looks up from her computer and tells me that the company that made Wobzilla’s bed –which she slept in nearly 20 hours a day (she was sleeping on us the other four) for the first nine months of her life -has issued a voluntary recall as a result of two deaths that occurred in the bed (during the very same months that our child was sleeping in one)…I don’t know how to process that. Anger, gratitude, remorse, fear, empathy, compassion, guilt, all at once.

It brings to mind those chain emails that occasionally make it around. Generally an Old Timer bemoaning the state of the world today, almost boastful of the fact that they survived without car seats, or even seatbelts, that they lived in a time when it was okay to drink and smoke while you were pregnant and somehow they survived, blah blah blah. I’m sure you know the kind…

There are days when these strike a funny bone for me, but often, I read them and think, “Sure you survived unscathed, but not everyone did, and that’s why we have a seatbelt law now, that’s why there are car seats and why we stopped using iron in paint…” To me, it is insensitive to be boastful about winning the luck of the draw. It’s unsportsmanlike conduct.

What comes next?

We go about our day with faith, trusting all of our stuff, and try to be confident that we have made careful and responsible choices for our family, that we have parented with intention. And the thing is, our kids are going to get hurt no matter what we do, there will never be a recall on the park, or unkind words, or mean friends.

They will still get ear infections that bring on daunting fevers, and scary dreams, and they’ll still barf and skin their knees.

Ultimately my heart goes two ways when I find out that my family remains intact while others have drawn the short straw and faced harsh reality. First, I think of how precious each moment is – that we are all held together, alive, by a very thin thread. And second, I count my family lucky; thankfully we have the good fortune to all be alive and together and loving each other right now, hugs, hits, hollers and all.